The Uselessness of Guilt and Why I Still Have It

When you think about useless emotions, guilt and jealousy are my top two.
I'm pretty good on the jealousy front, but guilt still knocks me out time and again.
Last Sunday my son had a hockey game bright and early on Sunday morning.  My daughter wanted to come and I really did not want to have to carry her into the ice rink and get her walker and carry all of her things-and so I told her it was not going to be fin and none of her friends were going to be there.  A white lie, and I knew it.  So on arrival, when everyone of her friends and cousins were there and they were all running around having fun, I spent the game feeling like the world's worst Mom, once again.

My daughter is going through serial casting, which means some heavy bilateral casts from the knew down.  She is not super mobile as it is, and this just makes getting her out in the snow and muck that much harder.

My friends told me that I was being silly, and that kids can't go everywhere.  But I think I pride myself in making sure she never gets left behind because of her disability.  And that she can do whatever she sets her mind to.  But then I get tired by Sunday morning of the lifting and caring, and I want o drink my coffee and watch my son and be alone a bit.

So I guess this is an area I have to work on?  What does everyone else do with their guilt and their special needs child?